Day 74 // The Art of Marriage


Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. And each day as we navigate the ups and downs of our journey, David and I continue to create and recreate our marriage finding the best of one another and of ourselves.

After attending a family wedding this evening and then scrolling through my FB feed with so many other weddings and anniversaries on this day, I could not help but share this touching poem about the art of marriage.

If you find yourself in the midst of a storm at some point in your marriage, always remember it’s the little things that will make all the difference. Hugs!

In the art of marriage the little things are the big things…

It is never being too old to hold hands.

It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.

It is never going to sleep angry.

It is at no time taking the other for granted.

The courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

It is standing together facing the world.

It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.

It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

It is finding room for the things of the spirit.

It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

It is discovering what marriage can be, at its best.